Office Romance: A Val’s Guide to a Focused Career
From 12 midnight, Cupid will be on duty and – heck! – might be putting in overtime still after 12 midnight this 14th of February. It’s Valentine and Love is in the air. Speaking of which … it seems to be a salient subject in the workplace. Nothing sizzles more than romantic frictions in the workshop. Or even news of it. What to do with Workplace Romance.
It is not our view that office romance is outright detrimental to workplace efficiency/effectiveness. On the contrary, we recognize that in some setups, office romance can encourage efficiency.
Our advice goes thus:
If you are presently dating a co-worker (almost tempted to type “if you must date a co-worker” – but we’ll get to that later), you must bear in mind that a harassment suit could easily materialize over your head if the relationship goes awry. Just saying.
Secondly, do not give your other co-workers the impression that your decision or judgements in the office is clouded by sentiments either where discipline or reward is meted or required. Let your relationship encircle a code of fairness in all things official. If you can’t bear to punish your sweetheart, then perhaps you should either resign or call off the date.
Thirdly, if you are dating a subordinate in your report line, it is deemed to be inappropriate. Many company CEOs and chairmen have lost their jobs or hauled into a waterloo of scandal because of an “inappropriate relationship with a subordinate co-worker.”
If you are contemplating a relationship with the hot new exec, we suggest you set up a date with someone outside your office setting first. You want to be sure that convenience isn’t nudging you into an office romance that screams CAREER SUICIDE. If you still feel the same way about the co-worker, well…we pray Cupid’s arrow gets you in the heart and not the head.
Lafia! (We wish you well!)
We pray Cupid’s arrow gets you in the heart and not the head.